Self-Care Isn’t Enough: Heal Trauma with Self-Regulation

Free trauma regulation guidebook from Ashley Anne: substack.com/@gravitypointinstitute

Work with Leslie: theloomlife.com

What if trauma work didn’t have to feel like guesswork?

In this episode of Pulling Threads, Leslie sits down with Ashley Anne, PhD — trauma specialist, neuro counselor, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Gravity Point® Institute — to unpack nearly 20 years of research into one of the most important distinctions in healing: self-care vs. self-regulation.

Ashley grew up as a highly sensitive, neurodivergent child who looked fine on the outside and felt everything on the inside. She became a trauma therapist and burned out badly — despite doing yoga, journaling, therapy twice a week, and all the self-care. What she discovered in her research was that self-care and self-regulation are not the same thing. And that difference changed everything.

In this conversation, Leslie and Ashley explore:

• Why self-care alone can’t heal a dysregulated nervous system

• The Gravity Point Method: a step-by-step process for resolving stress and trauma — not just managing it

• How the body signals dysregulation before the mind catches up

• The difference between a “true state” and a “trauma state” — and why divorce activates both

• Why highly sensitive and neurodivergent people get stuck in toxic dynamics

• How healing yourself is contagious — one nervous system at a time

This episode is for anyone who has done “all the things” and still feels stuck, anyone navigating divorce trauma, and anyone curious about what it actually means to regulate — not just cope.

[★ RESOURCES MENTIONED]

★ Ashley’s FREE Guidebook (download via Substack): substack.com/@gravitypointinstitute

★ Ashley’s Book: gravitypointinstitute.com/publications

★ Gravity Point® Institute: gravitypointinstitute.com

★ Follow Ashley: @gravitypointinstitute (Instagram, YouTube, all platforms)

[★ WORK WITH LESLIE]

► The Loom Life (coaching, therapy & more): theloomlife.com

► Loom Life Therapy: loomlifetherapy.com

► THROUGH — Leslie’s 8-Week Divorce Coaching Program: https://theloomlife.com/throughdivorceprogram

► Mindful Untangling Community: https://theloomlife.com/community

► Follow Leslie on Instagram: @the.loom.life

► TikTok: @leslieellenmathews

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