Understanding Deception The Intent, Impact, and Healing

Why Even “Small Lies” Hurt So Much | The Psychology of Deception in Relationships

In this powerful episode of Pulling Threads, therapist and coach Leslie unpacks the hidden damage caused by deception in relationships — from bold-faced lies to subtle omissions and half-truths.

Why does it hurt so badly when we find out someone misled us? How does betrayal affect our mental health, self-worth, and ability to trust again?

Leslie explores:

• Why even small deceptions rupture trust

• How past trauma amplifies the pain of betrayal

• The psychological impact of being lied to or misled

• What it does to your self-esteem and attachment

• Why people deceive — and what’s really going on beneath the surface

• Steps individuals and couples can take to heal after deception

Whether you’re trying to move on from a relationship filled with dishonesty or working to rebuild after a breach of trust, this episode offers compassionate insight and actionable strategies for healing.

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⏱ Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Pulling Threads

00:30 Understanding Deception

01:32 Psychological Impact of Deception

02:10 Examples of Deception in Relationships

03:52 Betrayal Trauma and Its Effects

11:28 Healing from Deception

19:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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💬 What’s your experience with deception in relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments — we’d love to hear your story.