Who Am I After Divorce? The Unraveling Into Becoming

You've always been the one who holds it all together. So why does this feel like coming apart? If you're in the unraveling of a divorce or the end of a long relationship, this episode is for you.

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🌿 In this solo episode of Pulling Threads: Weaving Authenticity, I'm not teaching a framework. I'm describing a woman I've sat with, walked alongside, and known through many names and many stories. She's competent. She's capable. She has built a life and kept everything moving. And now a relationship that was woven into the fabric of who she is is coming apart. Maybe she's still deciding. Maybe she's in the middle of the divorce. Maybe the papers are signed and she's wondering why she doesn't feel free yet. We walk through the thoughts she doesn't always say out loud: • "I should be handling this better." • "I don't even know who I am outside of this." • "I don't want to just survive this." • "Is that even allowed?" We name her fears: making settlement and co-parenting decisions from grief, anger, or fear; becoming permanently harder and more guarded; being surrounded by people who love her but don't know this terrain. And we name what she hopes: that the breaking open is actually a becoming, and that real peace, the kind that lives in your body and not the Instagram version, is possible on the other side.

If you hear yourself in this, you're exactly where you're supposed to be. CHAPTERS ⏱

00:00 Welcome: a different kind of episode 00:45 The woman in the unraveling

01:20 Deciding, divorcing, or newly on the other side

02:35 "I should be handling this better" 03:05 "I don't even know who I am outside of this"

03:55 "I don't want to just survive this"

04:40 Afraid of deciding from grief, anger, and fear

05:25 When the people who love you don't understand 06:05 Will she find her way back to herself?

06:25 What she hopes: the unraveling as a becoming

07:40 Who The LooM Life was built for

08:25 Where to find support

ABOUT LESLIE Leslie Mathews, JD, MSW, is the founder of The LooM Life and a guide for women moving through divorce, breakups, and the end of long-term partnerships. A former attorney who has walked through her own divorce, she weaves mind, body, and soul into a holistic, trauma-informed path toward peace, freedom, and a life that feels genuinely yours.

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