Pulling Threads, Weaving Authenticity

Why Do Breakups Hurt So Much? | Brain Science, Trauma & Healing After HeartbreakIn this episode of Pulling Threads, therapist and coach Leslie unpacks why breakups feel so devastating—especially when you’re carrying unresolved trauma. From the brain science behind emotional pain to the impact of attachment styles, Leslie explores what really happens in our nervous system when a relationship ends—and why it can feel like your whole world is unraveling.You’ll learn: • The neuroscience of heartbreak and why it mimics physical pain • How childhood trauma and attachment wounds shape your breakup response • The stages of breakup grief (hint: they’re not linear!) • Common emotional “minefields” to watch for post-breakup • Real-life coping tools, grounding exercises, and emotional regulation strategies • How to turn heartbreak into a powerful opportunity for healing, clarity, and self-discoveryWhether you’re reeling from a recent breakup or want to better understand the emotional aftermath of relationship endings, this episode is packed with insights, strategies, and encouragement to help you feel less alone—and more empowered.🫖 Grab your tea, get comfy, and let’s untangle this together.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Why Breakups Hurt So Much01:09 – Leslie’s Personal Breakup Story04:43 – Brain Science of Heartbreak07:25 – Attachment Styles & Breakup Impact10:27 – Stages of Breakup Grief17:02 – Navigating Post-Breakup Minefields22:36 – Grounding Tools for Emotional Recovery24:55 – Final Thoughts & Words of Support

Why Even “Small Lies” Hurt So Much | The Psychology of Deception in RelationshipsIn this powerful episode of Pulling Threads, therapist and coach Leslie unpacks the hidden damage caused by deception in relationships — from bold-faced lies to subtle omissions and half-truths.Why does it hurt so badly when we find out someone misled us? How does betrayal affect our mental health, self-worth, and ability to trust again?Leslie explores: • Why even small deceptions rupture trust • How past trauma amplifies the pain of betrayal • The psychological impact of being lied to or misled • What it does to your self-esteem and attachment • Why people deceive — and what’s really going on beneath the surface • Steps individuals and couples can take to heal after deceptionWhether you’re trying to move on from a relationship filled with dishonesty or working to rebuild after a breach of trust, this episode offers compassionate insight and actionable strategies for healing.🔗 Subscribe to Pulling Threads for more honest conversations on trauma, healing, and modern relationships.⸻⏱ Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Pulling Threads00:30 Understanding Deception01:32 Psychological Impact of Deception02:10 Examples of Deception in Relationships03:52 Betrayal Trauma and Its Effects11:28 Healing from Deception19:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts⸻💬 What’s your experience with deception in relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments — we’d love to hear your story.📲 Follow Leslie & The LooM LifeInstagram: @TheLooMLifeWebsite: www.theloomlife.com

In this episode of Pulling Threads, we explore the complexities of personal growth, evolving past old patterns, and how to navigate relationships with those who may still see us through an outdated lens. We discuss the importance of allowing ourselves and others the space to grow, and when it might be necessary to set boundaries or even walk away to protect our progress. With examples from personal experiences and insights as a therapist, this conversation aims to offer guidance on maintaining authenticity and honoring our evolution, despite external perceptions.00:00 Introduction and Personal Growth01:23 Challenges of Being Seen in a New Light05:07 Personal Story: Golfing with Frank15:13 Healthy Boundaries and Self-Protection17:54 When It's Time to Walk Away22:53 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Embracing Entrepreneurship and Home Organization with Kirsten FisherIn this episode of 'Pulling Threads,' we are joined by Kirsten Fisher, a home organizer and entrepreneur, as she shares her journey from a career in sports marketing to starting her own business in home organization. Kirsten discusses the challenges and triumphs of being a female entrepreneur, adapting to market uncertainties, and the importance of mental health through decluttering. She also offers practical tips on home organization and discusses how her unique 'letting go' bins and membership programs help maintain an organized and stress-free environment. Join us for an inspiring conversation about entrepreneurship, resilience, and the profound impact of an organized home on mental well-being.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:41 Kirsten's Journey to Home Organization04:09 Starting and Growing a Business07:11 Navigating Challenges and Pivots09:35 Lessons Learned and Advice for Entrepreneurs12:07 The Importance of Community and Support28:41 Shifting Gears: Mental Health and Home Organization29:39 Emotional and Mental Shifts from Home Organization33:54 The Membership Program: Ongoing Support for Organization37:16 Dealing with Emotional Clutter41:55 Decluttering as Emotional Self-Care48:53 Practical Tips for DIY Decluttering55:00 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Understanding Trauma and Self-Preservation: Why We Sabotage OpportunitiesIn this episode of 'Pulling Threads,' we explore how trauma influences self-preservation behaviors that can unintentionally sabotage relationships and career opportunities. Learn what trauma is, how it manifests as hyperarousal and self-sabotage, and ways to identify and overcome these patterns. We delve into attachment issues, fear of intimacy, and avoidance in relationships, as well as fear of failure and hyper-independence in professional settings. Discover therapeutic approaches like CBT and EMDR to reframe traumatic experiences and build a supportive community to encourage growth and healing. Don't miss this insightful discussion on how to reclaim your potential and break free from the constraints of past trauma.00:00 Introduction to Self-Preservation01:29 Understanding Trauma and Self-Preservation02:15 Impact on Personal Relationships05:32 Impact on Career and Professional Life06:58 Steps to Healing and Overcoming Self-Preservation10:52 Personal Experiences and Examples20:16 Practical Techniques for Healing23:25 Conclusion and Encouragement

Welcome to another episode of 'Pulling Threads.' Today, our host sits down with Chelsea Larkins, a renowned hairstylist and entrepreneur from The Little Black Door Salon in Tampa. Chelsea shares her inspiring journey from working at a local salon to owning her own business, touching on her early love for cosmetology, the steps she took to become independent, and the challenges and triumphs she faced along the way. They discuss the powerful role of beauty and hair in personal identity and mental health, as well as the importance of patience, resilience, and trusting the process in entrepreneurial ventures. Chelsea also offers invaluable advice for aspiring entrepreneurs and reflects on her personal growth, professional satisfaction, and how she maintains a healthy work-life balance. Join us for this captivating conversation about beauty, bravery, and the transformative power of hair.Find Chelsea on Instagram at @chelseaschairllc and @thelittleblackdoorsalon00:00 Welcome and Introduction01:21 Chelsea's Entrepreneurial Journey06:14 Starting the Salon Business09:36 Balancing Business and Personal Life14:36 Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs17:58 The Power of Beauty and Hair23:13 Emotional Connections with Clients33:03 Managing Energy and Setting Boundaries37:33 The Physical and Mental Demands of the Job37:57 Memorable Client Experiences39:53 Gratitude and Personal Growth41:06 Balancing Work and Personal Life44:21 Dreams for the Salon's Future45:42 Advice to Younger Self and Reflections52:32 Embracing Beauty and Self-Care01:06:13 Closing Thoughts and Where to Find Us

In this episode, we dive deep into the journey of self-discovery, moving from societal expectations to finding one's true path. Today’s guest is Rebecca, a heart-led coach who once walked the halls of law and art and now walks with the energy of others. Leslie and Rebecca discuss the importance of understanding oneself, rebuilding one's foundation, and the liberation that comes from reframing one's story. The episode emphasizes the power of personal responsibility, mindset shifts, and the fundamental human desires for love, worthiness, and self-honor. Rebecca has uncovered and is sharing how she has trained AI tools to help her in her journey and with her clients. She explains why and how AI can be a powerful tool that accompanies it's users on their individual journeys! It concludes with a powerful message that everything we seek is already within us, waiting to be uncovered.Rebecca's course Divine Alchemy Coach can be found here https://www.divinealchemycoach.com/divine-alchemy-aiYou can follow Rebecca on Instagram @heart.led.revolutionShow Notes00:00 From Teenager to Working Adult: A Life Realization00:05 The Turning Point: Resignation and Intuition00:20 Questioning Life's Norms00:26 Piecing Together Life's Puzzle00:33 Living for Others vs. Living for Yourself00:50 Rebuilding Your Foundation01:05 Diverse Beliefs and Personal Convictions01:29 Finding Self-Understanding and Purpose02:04 The Power of Personal Responsibility02:27 The Desire for Love and Worthiness02:39 Reframing Your Journey02:47 The Freedom of Non-Personalization02:53 The Message: Everything is Within

In this episode of 'Pulling Threads,' we delve into the common human desire to control what we fear losing, particularly in the context of relationships. Whether you're in the early dating stages or years into a partnership, the urge to define, predict, and control the relationship can often lead to its downfall. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, we explore why we cling to control and how we can shift towards a more grounded, mindful approach to love. Learn how to embrace connection, practice self-love, and navigate the complexities of modern dating with grace and openness. Join us as we unweave old patterns and build stronger ties for a more fulfilling romantic journey.
00:00 Introduction to the Human Experience of Love
00:17 The Desire to Control in Relationships
00:43 Early Stages of Dating and Relationship Sabotage
01:37 The Importance of Connection and Common Behaviors
03:12 Exploring the Fear of Getting Hurt
08:20 The Role of Control and Safety in Love
09:01 Navigating Modern Dating and Seeking Advice
16:07 Understanding Attachment Styles
17:15 Embracing Love Without Guarantees
21:29 Conclusion: Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace

In this episode of Pulling Threads, the host is joined by Bev to discuss the often-overlooked topic of grief during and after breakups and divorce. The conversation delves into the emotional complexities of ending marriages and relationships, the unique type of grief associated with it, and practical tips to help both the individuals going through it and their support systems. They cover a range of topics, including the unexpected waves of grief, the process of healing, the importance of having a support system, and strategies for moving on. They also discuss what not to say to someone going through a divorce and how to be there for friends in these difficult times.00:00 Introduction to Grieving Breakups and Divorce02:15 Understanding the Emotional Impact of Divorce06:16 Navigating the Complexities of Divorce Grief07:51 The Decision-Making Process Before Divorce13:36 Financial and Social Challenges Post-Divorce16:40 Stages of Grief in Divorce22:13 Rebuilding After Divorce30:34 Advice for Those Considering Divorce38:29 Setting Personal Goals and Evaluating Relationships39:29 Assessing Compatibility and Support in Relationships42:21 Making Decisions and Taking Action43:37 Navigating Divorce and Emotional Challenges44:47 Effective Communication During Divorce47:31 Self-Advocacy and Understanding Others57:26 Coping Strategies and Professional Support01:03:29 Final Thoughts and Moving Forward